Are you really dating if your significant other hasn’t made it Instagram official yet? Honestly, your realtionship might be better off keeping things offline. Couples who are extremely online tend to crash and burn. So before you and your perfectly tanned boyfriend make a joint account and gain thousands of followers, let’s reflect on what an online relationship really means.
Private Life, Public Opinion
I feel like this is an obvious one but people seem to gloss over it. Having such a private part of your life on display means your putting it up for scrutiny. The public eye is not kind and you’re going to get a lot of not so nice feedback.
No one ever wants to think the worst of their significant other, but do you really want to have to potentially deal with accusations of cheating. Just take a look at Kat Stickler, half of the very popular former TikTok duo Kat and Mike. They seemed perfect, they fell in love fast and had a beautiful baby girl. Behind the scenes, however, it wasn’t as good as it seemed. They split and now rumors of infidelity are in every comment section of her videos. She’s still killing it solo, but she’ll forever be associated with her soon-to-be ex-husband.
Your Relationship Is Not As Solid As You Think
You think the relationship between you and your significant other is what people write books and poetry about. There has never been a connection as strong as yours. That is until your significant other starts getting attention from all your followers. When girls and guys are throwing themselves at your significant other do you think they’ll be able to stay faithful? We’re not talking about one or two girls from your hometown that have always hated you – we’re talking about 100s or even 1000s of people offering themselves to the person you love. Girls who are prettier than you, guys who are in better shape than you are. Would you be able to handle the pressure?
You’re probably confident that you and your significant other would never cheat. That’s good. You want to know who else was confident? FaZe Banks and Alissa Violet. Addison Rae and Bryce Hall. Just some food for thought.
Public Breakups Suck
At the end of the day, breakups suck. They really do. Whether it’s an amicable split or not, it always hurts when something you dedicated so much time to doesn’t work out. The worse thing about online breakups, though, is that there is no privacy – you don’t get to mourn in silence. There are questions in every comment section asking where your ex is. People begin to figure out that you are no longer together. Chaos ensues, and a need to explain yourself arises. Suddenly, you owe strangers a detailed recount of the events of your breakup. The When. The Why. The How.
TikTok personality Spencer experienced this when he stopped posting with his ex-boyfriend. His relationship was an integral part of his popular TikTok channel for a while and when it was over people noticed. He ended up having to speak about it a month after it happened and then it got ugly. He brought the private issues of the relationship online in order to clarify things for people and because his ex was using him for followers.
Relationships all end at some point, but save yourself the trouble and keep things offline as much as possible.