Megan Thee Stallion, after being allegedly shot by her then-boyfriend, spoke about her experience on Instagram Live. “You have to protect your energy,” she said, nearly in tears. As I’m sure everyone would be, after their partner either shot them or shot at them, she was emotionally distraught. Lanez’s party claimed it didn’t happen. They claim despite catching a bullet to the foot (she had bullet fragments removed from her foot at the hospital) she could walk, which they claim is impossible. Members of his camp spread the word she was lying, she was drunk, she was only shot at and not shot. They said it wasn’t her boyfriend but the bodyguard, that it was her friend who lied to her, whatever.
To me, whether I’m shot or shot at makes no difference. Clearly, that person is not sane enough to deal with their emotions properly. Threatening someone with a gun, especially a partner, is not normal behavior. It would obviously shake up or seriously hurt someone. Neither a partner nor their team should be shooting at anyone. With or without the intention of striking them is irrelevant. She was clearly traumatized. What’s worse is he, his camp and his fans have no sympathy for a defenseless person being shot at. Megan took a break from social media after this to get some clarity of mind.
What really stuck with me in her response, besides her composure and maturity over the issue, and her strength and intelligence in dealing with it was the line “you have to protect your energy”. I have been thinking of this and repeating this line in my head since I heard it. It’s one thing to care about mental health, which has been in the media non-stop since 2012, but another to prioritize and consider energy.
I think because America has become so secular, we often neglect or even negate the spiritual elements of our lives/personalities/mental room. Talk about energy or spirituality frequently centers around being silly or unimportant. The scientific counterpart – mental health and wellness – is considered a real, provable part of the self. Energy, auras, spirituality don’t have studies proving their existence and therefore, aren’t real and aren’t important.
Regardless, I think everyone would say energy or others’ energy is noticeable. If a friend is tired, their vibe shifts. If someone at work is going through an emotional ordeal, their energy will be off. They might be acting the same, but there will be something… off about the person in question. Other times, some people just have a constant, positive, warm vibe. It’s not that they’re constantly in a good mood – some people in good moods have energy that just feels off – the feeling you get from them is warm, even if they’re having a bad day. You can feel when your own energy is down and sometimes there’s seemingly no reason for it.
I’ve noticed that anything affects my energy. I don’t pride myself on being more sensitive than most, I think I’m about as sensitive as everyone else, and everyone has the same sensitivities as me. I think conditioning has people numb towards these feelings or unaware of their effect on their mood. In my opinion, people who cause negative energy – by shooting at their girlfriend, for example! – don’t want to feel guilt and so they will say the individual hurt is too sensitive, and we often buy it. They will blame shift and not take responsibility. Anyways, I am sensitive to everything and anything. If a meme spreads that is negative, I’ve noticed it will hurt my energy. When I’m having lunch with someone and they speak out of envy, it will hurt my energy. If I’m listening to a song its content is offensive or mean, it hurts my internal state.
Conscious of Negative Energy
It’s constant and rampant and I’ve had to meticulously remove things from my sphere of influence that can and will bring my energy down. I feel a lot better, I feel a lot more myself and I feel a lot more moral as a result. I don’t like acting on negative energy and I don’t like how it makes me feel when I know I’m at a low energy place. Still, many either aren’t aware that they’re low energy and don’t think they’re spreading badness or don’t care. This doesn’t mean I avoid sad things or things that make me angry, just that I have had made purposeful actions to cut out anything that directly brings me hurt – as corny as it is to say.
Online, it’s everywhere. Anything can bring you down and you wouldn’t see it coming. Someone on your Twitter feed could say something and it ruins your mood. A TikToker could come up on your FYP that gives bothersome or toxic relationship advice. An overly-edited Instagram post could make you feel bad about yourself. It’s vital to ask yourself when your energy dents and when to remove negative impacts from your sphere of influence. That which is around you has a major impact on who you are and what energy you have.
Selfishness as Positive Energy
Being concerned with your energy doesn’t translate into being selfish or refusing to help those in need. But, removing people who refuse help, want to bring you down, or want to hurt you is prioritizing yourself. Removing people who don’t want to change and become better is important to your energy. Protecting your energy means knowing you have good energy and ignoring anything that doesn’t encourage this. Acting on ego or pride isn’t positivity, but negativity disguised as good energy.
As a creator, as we all are in some sense, we also have a duty to act on and spread good energy. I don’t want to put anything out there that could bring someone down or hurt someone. But, I do want people around me to grow and develop. I feel the impact when I haven’t protected my energy and prioritized my feelings immediately and it can backfire in ways outside of energy to physical effects – as Megan Thee Stallion described.
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